The Bunny

Until I got married, I never knew it was possible to love and to hate someone at the same time. I mean that much more positively than it sounds, HONEY. I don’t think this makes me a terrible person. I think it makes me a person who lives with her true love. And a person who occasionally wants to hold said true love’s head under the water until the bubbles stop. You think he feels any differently? HA! Our prenup specifically allows him up to ten minutes of homicidal fantasies a day. Fifteen if I use any tense of the word “redecorate”.

If you’ve read this blog before, you may know of the saint to whom I am married. And make no mistake, the man IS a saint. I know it’s hard to tell from my writing, but I’m a little neurotic. And high maintenance. And tend to have pizza cravings which must be satisfied RIGHT NOW. And also I steal his socks. And start most of my conversations with him with “Okay, so…” as if we were already in the middle of a conversation. Oh, and occasionally I get mad at him in my head, and we have this fight in my head, and then I take it out on him in person. I am aware that is in no way cool.

If his life with me had a soundtrack, it would be nothing but a sad trombone.

We’ve gone through some tough times in the almost seven years we’ve been married, but to paraphrase my mother, divorce is not an option. Homicide might be, but not divorce. See, we took our time. He shook me and held me for a while to see if I was heavy for my size. I looked for bruises and any sign of mold along the stem. It took a while, and the other day he did–when asked–tell me he had no idea I was THIS crazy before he married me, but he actually likes me more now. There are days he has to remind himself that’s the case, sure, but at the end of the day he’s the whiskey to my sour.

I don’t know if it was hormones or meatloaf, but last night I got a little weepy. You know how us gals do with our emotions and our feelings and our bottles of stuff sitting around everywhere and why does anyone need seven different kinds of body lotion? (The answer to that is, of course, because I’m economizing down from thirteen. Duh.) I just wanted him to be, you know, all therethere and pat my head. Around year five I realized that he could not read my mind. Armed with this knowledge last night, I decided to wake him up and force him to soothe me.

So I sort of poked him and whispered his name. Nothing. A little more shaking this time. He rattles and sputters and coughs and flails, but does not wake up. A little louder this time. CHUCK! Nope. I give up and burrow in next to him, occasionally dodging an errant elbow or full-body sleep jerk. I looked at my dresser. I couldn’t see it in the dark, but I knew what sat on top. It’s a small beige ceramic bunny. His mother brought it to me a couple of years ago. When he was about three, he went to an Easter egg hunt and the bunny was in one of those bifurcated plastic eggs. She said he was so excited to show her his prize. I keep the little bunny there for a reason. When I get upset, angry, sad, or just generally pissed off, I look at the bunny. Immediately, I get an image in my head of a little toddler Chuck, his dimpled starfish hands holding up the little dime store bunny to his mom. In my head he’s wearing those little white shoes and has a bowl cut and there’s a Peter Pan collar involved. That image usually calms me down, and it worked last night.

I started feeling better about the time he violently flipped onto his back and let out a mournful sigh. In his obviously deep sleep, he reached for my hand, and I startled myself with the realization that all I ever need to do is put out my hand.

He will tell you his nocturnal thrashing is IN NO WAY as bad as how I ALLEGEDLY fly back into bed after getting up and repeatedly beating my pillow which ALLEGEDLY bounces him around to the point he’s in danger of getting a ceiling fan haircut.

Understanding. That’s what makes a good marriage. Understanding. And liquor doesn’t hurt either.


6 Comments Add yours

  1. Gita8 says:

    The source of most of my marital hatred concerns differences in temperature preferences. A ceiling fan haircut would be just desserts for the man who runs it at helicopter speed above our marital bed at night. I wear socks and a scarf to bed and huddle under heavy layers. He, by contrast, sleeps on top of the covers, bare nekkid in that gale force wind. He will die in old age of natural causes. I will die very soon of hypothermia.

    1. Susan says:

      I understand. We both like it subzero, but there are blanket issues I can’t even go into because of my blood pressure. Now, I have what might be classified as your icicle feet? So I highly recommend sticking them right up on him to warm up. The Chuck ACTS like it’s annoying, but I don’t buy it.

  2. grandefille says:

    The Chuck has indeed secured his place in Glory.

    You will be right there alongside him, of course, and there will be angels assigned to come get you and take you to the pool and for ice cream when you start to get aleeetlebittooclosefortoolong, as longtime sweethearts will.

    Not discussing how you made me sniffle, by the way. Dang allergies.

    1. Susan says:

      I must admit I got a little misty eyed writing it, but it turned out I’d just gotten some of my moisturizer in my eyes. Also, ICE CREAM!

  3. sjs1959 says:

    Strangely enough, this makes me look forward to marriage. I always keep Jameson on hand for just such an emergency.

    1. Susan says:

      Oh, it’s a hoot and a half, this marriage business. I highly recommend both it and the Jameson.

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